1st wedding anniversary

On this day in 2007, 22nd Dec, I tied the knot with my sweetheart, Carmen after 6 years of courtship and patoship (my own term). I still remember how we had to go through a lot of preparations physically, mentally and emotionally as well. After hours of nervousness, anxieties, and quarreling finally we got married which I think worth every minute spent enduring all priceless experience.

I remember the wedding ceremony at the church in my hometown, Sarikei was attended by over 150 hundred friends (mainly my parents’ friends) and relatives. Ceremony was grand plus some hiccups because the pastor was a bit anxious then me. Then a congested lunch at a Chinese restaurant ended the long hours of preparations. Glad finally the initial stage was over.

But the real marriage life starts after that. Over the past one year, our marriage is filled with happiness, laughters and not forgetting some tense, sad and despair moments. Initially, it was hard to share the same bed with my wife. I remember she couldn’t stand my snoring melody at night which forced her to surrender sleeping in the living room.

Living together is like transforming two separate entities to become one. Been a tag team with my wife means there’s a lot of understanding involve in solving issues from our marriage, family, career, habits, lifestyles etc. I have learnt when to be firm and submissive depending on situations. But, I'm glad that someone is doing all the laundry and cooking for me.

The strength about her is that I can’t hide anything from her verbally and non-verbally. I guess it’s a ladies’ instinct to predict what’s going on to their men. It sounds hazardous to men but in the end breaks the silence.

As most of my married friends said, married couples will prosper physically and that happens to me and my wife as well. I have gained a wealthy 8 kg since marriage. I’ll try not to ask her about her progressive pounds or else a kiss of death is waiting for me.

Well, we get to cherish all the moments no matter during clear or storm and normally we manage to get through and learn new stuffs. This is what so called lessons learnt. Of cause there are a lot of other experiences that I still think still better kept privately within us.

To my dear Carmen, it’s been a year we got married and thank you for your companionship and love through all the moments.